I like to avoid putting laundry away. I do not mind washing clothes, but the act of putting them away seems too overwhelming. Recently, I decided to not put laundry away and instead just brought the laundry basket in my room. Later, in the middle of the night, I tripped on the basket. I ended up with a huge bruise on my leg. Avoidance ended up harming me!
While laundry and bruises may be a small matter, we often avoid larger scenarios which in the end cause even more hardship on our lives. How often do we make a decision to try to avoid pain, yet bring greater heartache upon ourselves? Naomi experienced heartache over one choice to move, in an attempt to avoid a famine in the land.
In the days when the judges ruled, there was a famine in the land. So a man from Bethlehem in Judah, together with his wife and two sons, went to live for a while in the country of Moab. The man’s name was Elimelek, his wife’s name was Naomi, and the names of his two sons were Mahlon and Kilion. They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem, Judah. And they went to Moab and lived there. Now Elimelek, Naomi’s husband, died, and she was left with her two sons. They married Moabite women, one named Orpah and the other Ruth. After they had lived there about ten years, both Mahlon and Kilion also died, and Naomi was left without her two sons and her husband. (Ruth 1:1-5)
Suffering and pain are a part of life due to the sin in this world and the enemy’s attacks on us. However, when suffering comes, our response showcases our character. Elimelech wanted to avoid the temporal hardship of the famine. He moved to enemy territory in desire to survive. However, he ended up dying along with his two sons, which led to deep grief and impoverishment of his wife Naomi.
Naomi makes the difficult decision to return home. This journey would be extremely difficult. Plus, in her poverty, her ability to survive even back home would entail great sacrifice and hardship. Unfortunately, Naomi continues Elimelech’s destructive pattern of trying to convince others to avoid suffering even though in the long run there would be dire penalties to that decision. When she decides to return back to Israel, she has a conversation with her two widowed daughters-in-law that leave them facing eternal consequences.
Then Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, “Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home. May the LORD show you kindness, as you have shown kindness to your dead husbands and to me. May the LORD grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband.”
Then she kissed them goodbye and they wept aloud and said to her, “We will go back with you to your people.”
But Naomi said, “Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? (Ruth 1:8-11a)
Naomi is returning the land of Israel, the land of God. It would be a long and difficult journey. However, it would be a return to the Lord, forsaking the idols of Moab, and joining to the God of Israel. Naomi attempts to talk both women from this choice. Sadly, one complies.
At this they wept aloud again. Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law goodbye, but Ruth clung to her. (Ruth 1:14)
Orpah follows her mother-in-law’s advice and walks toward the Moabite gods instead of going to the land of the God of Israel. Naomi’s negativity, complaining in difficulties, wanting others to avoid hardship; pushed Orpah away from the Lord. In Naomi’s attempt to keep Ruth and Orpah from temporary hardship, she ended up not being a witness and bringing Orpah to Israel, God’s dwelling place.
Life is hard. We all experience loss. However, attempts to avoid pain are futile and can lead to unnecessary suffering. It also inflicts harm on those around us. Eventually, our attitude towards the suffering will be reflected in our character and our choices. It also taints our view of God.
“Don’t call me Naomi,” she told them. “Call me Mara, because the Almighty has made my life very bitter. I went away full, but the LORD has brought me back empty. Why call me Naomi? The LORD has afflicted me; the Almighty has brought misfortune upon me.” (Ruth 1:20-21)
She did not want to be called Naomi (pleasant), but Mara (bitter). She blamed her bitter life on the Lord. Naomi and her husband chose to avoid suffering and leave Bethlehem yet the consequences of their decisions she now blamed on God. How often we do the same! Our negativity and complaints are ultimately an accusation against the Lord which keeps us from an honest evaluation of ourselves and life’s choices. They were not led to Moab by a direction of God’s will, but based on avoiding difficult circumstances (famine in the land). The consequences of going our own way are not God’s fault.
Avoiding pain, complaining, and bitterness are ultimately personal accusations against God. We need to evaluate our lives. If these attitudes are in us, we need to repent. It is time for our Mara hearts to become Naomi ones once again.