Confrontation is Love
“I want to find a church that loves me for who I am.”
“I’m looking for a place that won’t judge me.”
“I need a church that will love me and my family and help us feel appreciated.”
There is really nothing inherently wrong with the above statements. One might notice the focus on self. The quick answer is to tell someone to look for a place they can serve, and not just a place that serves them. That sounds good, and it is correct, but we have to be honest, we do live in an individualistic society. Whether we admit it or not, we all desire to be in a church where we belong, where we feel appreciated, and that loves us.
But, as church leaders, how far do we take this? Are we to offer the best user experience we possibly can? Well, yes, we should … But, I ask again, how far do we take this? What if the “who I am” of the person is completely contrary to God’s Word? What if the person needs judging? (And yes, we are CALLED to judge other believers … another blog, another day). What if the family is in complete shambles and needs help?
I’ve battled internally the role of my own shepherding over the years. My core personality is a people-pleaser. I want others to be happy, and if I’m honest, I want them to be happy with me. No one likes to be disliked. But, if you’ve been in ministry anytime at all, you know this is not reality. We live in a fallen world, and disagreements and misunderstandings happen. People are not always going to approve of me (or you). If you find yourself in a situation where everyone is agreeing with you, it might be time to question your leadership. That sounds harsh right? Sure we can get more agreement if we stay in the middle of the road. You know, don’t take too many hard stands, and if you do, make sure it’s an echo chamber stand. It’s easy to get an “amen” when you know that 99% of the people agree with you! We can get everyone to like us if we are always agreeable with everything, no matter what. But, that’s not authentic, and it’s not our calling … We are shepherds, and shepherds lead.
Taking a stand is tough. Doing the right thing is tough. What about the church member that is privately living in sin? I say privately, because if it’s public, it’s not as difficult to confront. But what if it’s private? What if you are called to talk to that church member privately? Your desire is truly to help and to restore. But, you are risking a lot by confronting. They can respond harshly. They can spread gossip. Meanwhile, you remain silent to the rest of the congregation out of respect for the person. What about the church member that is in a bad relationship? What about the ones that are harming themselves? Shepherding a flock is not easy if it’s done the right way.
Church leaders, it’s time we regain the boldness to which God called us. I’m not saying we go through the congregation slaying everyone over every sin and every issue. My people-pleasing personality would revolt against that anyway. But, I do believe we should be reminded that “our battle is not against flesh and blood”. I’ve been reminded this past week on several occasions that there is a very real spirit realm. As we “confront” people we are actually confronting “the powers of this dark world and against spiritual forces of evil”. We have members that are in bondage.
One word of caution: We have to make sure that we are ready spiritually ourselves! As we confront issues, attacks are sure to happen. There will be backlash from others, there will be misunderstanding. You might even risk your job. But, aren’t we called to be Christ’s representatives? Isn’t that what our calling is all about?
As I look ahead at my future days in ministry, I want to be a warrior that fights the dark forces. I would much rather be misunderstood and even disliked on earth, than to spend eternity not making a difference. I feel like I need to state an obvious here: I’m not saying we all need to be butt-heads and walk through our congregations being a human wrecking ball. We need to be agreeable and likeable people. We need to open our hearts and arms to everyone. But, we also need to be bold enough to call out sin when it’s there. We need to dig underneath the surface talk and provide honesty in situations.
True love doesn’t always agree. True love sometimes hurts. It hurts others, and it might even hurt us. But, truth heals.
My prayer: God help us to be “truth in love” people. I pray especially for younger ministers that are just starting. Help them be bold. God I pray for healing for our people. We live in dark times. Warfare is all around us. Families are being destroyed, addictions are at an all time high. We are more connected, yet less connected than ever. Help our churches to be more than just a gathering to help us feel better. I pray that our congregations become life-giving. Root out the deepest issues in us, your leaders first. Help us to become the warriors that you called us to be. Help us to know when to speak up, and when to be silent, when to confront, and when to console. We need Your wisdom, Your help, and Your power. Help us Lord … Amen!
Extra, Extra, Extra, Extraordinary
I think sometimes when we are around the extraordinary we consider it ordinary. I had some people tell me recently about how their dog can open the gate to go out to the beach. I was amazed and exclaimed, “She taught herself that. It’s amazing!”
The owner’s response, “It took her some time to figure it out.” So it would only be mind boggling for him if the dog also spoke to him while she let herself out? “Hey, Master, I am heading to the beach. There is a guy dog next door I want to meet. Wish me luck! By the way, could you add real bacon to dinner tonight? I’m tired of that fake stuff that you think you are tricking me with.”
It reminds me of a mom I know whose first-born is a genius. However, she did not know that his IQ was off the charts. She assumed every child was reading books by the age of three. The mom did not know he was already on an elementary-school grade level; she thought this is what all three years olds do. Then, her second child was born. Her daughter could not read by the age of three and in fact did not want to sit long enough to have a story read to her. The mom took her second-born to the doctor, thinking something was wrong. The doctor figured out the problem and let the mom know her daughter was intelligent but should not be compared to a genius. The mom was so used to extraordinary she thought it was ordinary.
(Isn’t strange that I used a dog and a genius to make an illustration? Who would have put those two together? I wonder who is more offended the genius or the dog?)
The point is: I believe we have become too familiar with the extraordinary that we pass it off as ordinary. I was reminded of this the other day as I listened to a message by Brandy McCombs, a friend from back in the day…long time ago…in a land far, far, away…I could keep going but I won’t. Anyway, she shared of how the Bible is the Word of God, not just a book, but the living, breathing Word of God. The same God who said “Let there be light” and there was also wrote the Bible we so casually lay on our nightstand. She also pointed out how only 7% of the world’s population has the entire Bible written in their language. Although we are part of that small percentile, we see it as ordinary and not the extraordinary gift that it is.
Her message took me back to a Bible study I participated in years ago. The leader set his hand on the Bible and moved it up and down as if the Bible was breathing. He said something like, “The Word is alive. Approach the Bible remembering that it is living and active today.” It is not words on a page. It is not ink and paper. It is a conversation with God, the Word speaking to you and to me, the breath of God exhaling into our souls.”
That truly is extraordinary.
You’re Never Too Far Away from God
“When he saw Jesus from a distance, he ran and fell on his knees in front of him.” Mark 5:6
There’s nothing out of the ordinary about that verse. If you’ve been in church long, you’ve heard countless testimonies of people coming to a relationship with Christ, or returning to a relationship. But, what makes this verse so powerful is the back story. This guy was no ordinary guy. He lived in a cave. He was possessed by an impure spirit. He could not be bound, not even with chains. The Bible says that “no one was strong enough to subdue him”. “Night and day among the tombs and in the hills he would cry out and cut himself with stones.”
This guy was far gone. I’ve had some pretty bad days. I’ve strayed from God over the years in my own ways. I’ve done things my way instead of God’s way. But, I can honestly say, I’ve never lived on the outskirts of the city with chains wrapped around me. And, needless to say, I don’t think I’m so strong that no human being could ever subdue me.
“When he saw Jesus from a distance, he ran and fell on his knees in front of him.” I hear hope in this verse. This guy, despite being possessed by a whole Legion of demons, still had enough ability to recognize and call out to the only one who could help. No matter how far removed you or I feel from God, it’s not too far. We still have the ability to “run and fall in front of him”.
Another important note I see here, and I believe this is really important, is action. The man did the running to Jesus. Jesus did not approach the man. Jesus may come near, but he’s going to leave a step for us. We have to approach him. We have to fall on our knees in front of him.
What are your chains? What is binding you? Maybe you feel too far removed. You’re not! You’re never too far away from God. Run to him.
Canva Advanced – Beyond the Basics
Transforming the Template:
In this tutorial we will transform our template into another completely different image. While the easiest way is likely to just start from scratch, this tutorial will help you master the edit capabilities within Canva. With these skills, you can create just about any design or graphic you can image. In this tutorial you will change the background image, change the font, the font size, the font color, and the font effects. We will also delete a few elements, as well as move our font around on the work area.
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This is what our template looks like after completing the Canva Basics tutorial. If you are starting with the original template (the one that is titled “Guarding Your Heart”) you should still be able to follow along with this tutorial.
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We’re going all in quickly on this tutorial to change the whole look. To do so, we are going to remove the background heart image. Click the image and a colored box should surround the entire work area. Now, click the trash can icon, or click delete on your keyboard, or right click on your mouse and choose delete.
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This looks pretty bad, so we need a new background image. To upload a new file click “Uploads” on the far left side of the screen, then click “Upload files”
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Next, you navigate on your hard drive to find the image you will be uploading. One note: the perfect size image is 1920 x 1080 pixels. However, other image sizes can still work, but part of the image may be cut off. Avoid using smaller images because the stretch will make the background pixelated. There are several stock image places to choose images online, many of them free services. For our purposes, we will be uploading a drawing of a piano. You can download that image with this link to follow along. After you download the image to your computer, you will then proceed back into Canva, and click the “Upload files” button. The upload will then appear in the bin area to the left under images.
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Next, drag that image onto the work area. If it doesn’t snap into place, you may need to drag the corners and sides to make it fit. If for some reason it is hiding the text, right click the image, choose “Layer”, then choose “Send to back”. This will make sure the image is your background layer.
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Next we will change the text on the top line of the image. We are going to title this new Sermon Series “The Song of the Soul”. So, highlight the top text making the colored box appear around it. Select the text and type “the song of the”.
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After typing the new text, this looks like a big jumbled mess. There are a few ways to handle this. You could make the font size smaller, but it appears to be a good size for this image. The second option is to make the text box bigger to give the text more space. Click on the text to make the colored box appear. Then, use the little white tab on the sides of the text box to make it bigger.
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Your text should all be on the same line now. Don’t worry if it doesn’t look perfect, because we are coming back to this later.
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Now, we are going to change the bottom text. Click on the text box to make the colored box appear. Then, select the text and type in the word “SOUL”.
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This isn’t looking great at this point, but we’re just getting the correct words for now. The design magic is only a few steps away. We will leave it looking like this for now.
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This series logo doesn’t really need the bottom text box or text. You could leave it, but for our purposes we are going to delete both the bottom text and the text box. Highlight each element (the text and the box). You can delete by using the trash can icon that appears, or the delete key on your keyboard, or by right clicking the mouse and choosing delete. One note: If another layer is selecting when you try and choose these two layer, you can move that layer out of the way, and then you should be able to access the layer.
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After you’ve deleted the text, now delete the text box. Once again, you need that colored box around the layer. If it’s not letting you choose the layer because of another layer, you may need to move that interfering layer. In this sample the word “SOUL” might be interfering. If so, get the colored box around that layer and move it out of the way. You should then be able to delete the text box. Don’t worry, we are going to move the new logo words around anyway in a later step.